What do I mean by grounded?
It’s as simple as feeling your bum on the chair seat and your feet on the ground. Feeling present. Noticing the sounds around you; the temperature of the air on your skin; the quality of light. Really being with and listening to the person in front of you. It’s being HERE, now.
Feeling grounded means being present, calm & focused and feeling secure and peaceful within yourself.
And I choose the word “feeling” purposefully. It really is a felt sense of inhabiting your body and feeling present. It’s not a state you can think yourself into (though meditating on it helps).
When we’re ungrounded we tend to be disconnected from physical sensations as we’re preoccupied by thoughts about the past or future; we’re not HERE. You might feel heavy and full of dread or lose any sense of your body as your mind whirls around like a tornado.
To ground we need to develop roots: get back in touch with here and now.
So, how do you develop roots?
I find the most effective way is to get in touch with my body – specifically my legs and my feet.
Slow down. Breathe. Feel.
- March on the spot (a great way to stamp out irritation if someone or something has got under skin of late!)
- Bend and straighten your legs 5-10 times.
- Throw off your shoes and get barefoot on the floor or, even better, on grass.
- Then get still. Sink into this moment with a delicious “aaah and relax”.
Try this simple grounding technique
Feel the strong earth beneath you (barefoot is optional!)
Stand up consciously and really FEEL the strong muscles in your legs and the contact through the soles of your feet with the strong, solid earth beneath you OR sit on a chair or the floor and feel where your body is in contact with something and let yourself receive that support – no effort.
Form the Earth Mudra (ring finger tip to thumb tip) and relax your hands to your sides or into your lap.
Know you can let go of physical tension and emotional turmoil down into the earth.
Breathe deeply and let it all go.
Surrender to the safe space of this moment.
Affirm: I am grounded, safe and secure. I CHOOSE to feel grounded, safe and secure.
Then take your arms out wide and then give yourself a hug – really hug yourself tight. Tell yourself: “I am safe in my body; I am safe in my mind; I am safe in my life”.
Laugh at the storms of life
I recently shared this quote at the end of my weekly yoga classes:
“A tree with strong roots laughs at storms” ~ Malay Proverb
I love it! I’m quite the tree-hugger and now I have a lovely image of a mighty oak tree laughing off a storm.
Beautiful! “Ha ha, is that all you’ve got winds & rain? You’re not moving me! Yes my branches may break and my leaves may fall, but I’m still here – deep-rooted and present and still and majestic”. (Yes trees talk – didn’t you know?!)
Make like a treeTry this Grounding Meditation:
- Sit comfortably upright. Feel the length and strength in your spine while the rest of your body remains relaxed.
- Feel the pleasant heaviness of gravity’s effect upon your body.
- Slowly take your awareness down to the base of your spine.
- Visualize a large, strong tree, maybe a mighty oak tree. Imagine you are sitting at its base. Imagine its roots are your roots.
- Ponder the tree’s qualities: strength, endurance, stability, deep-rootedness, and an ability to draw up nourishment.
- Feel you can draw up these qualities through your roots into the base of your spine… and through the whole of your body.
- Then let your awareness come to your heart and let this feeling of inner strength, resilience and loving courage fill your heart. AFFIRM: I am grounded and secure.
- Sit a while and when you’re ready, slowly open your eyes and carry on with the rest of your day.
Remember, when you’re grounded and feel strong and focused and steady in your body and mind then you can withstand the storms of life.